King's Daughter's Kitchen

When I am near a narcissist now, and I realize it, the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. Danger, Will Robinson! Danger! Get out fast!  Narcissists did not cause me to be lost in space, but nearly cost me my life. So now, when I sense one, I run.

A narcissist has to be right and will dominate a conversation. They have to have the last word. If they don’t, it will start a fight. They want to be the center of attention. They believe they are special and worthy of admiration. They like to talk about themselves and are not good listeners.

They are masters of manipulation and good at playing the victim. If you have never been “played” by a narcissist, you may not even know that it is happening.

A person living with a narcissist can experience a loss of a sense of self over time, as the dominate narcissist takes over his or her speech and thoughts. He or she will take credit for your achievements as if they were his or her own. The partner of a narcissist is a trophy. When she looks good, he looks good. If she doesn’t, he will tell her because he knows better.

A narcissist never takes responsibility for his actions. He blames everyone and everything around him when things go wrong. He is able to lie without shame to get what he wants. He thinks he is very important but will constantly berate or undervalue you, even in front of others, to make himself appear to be the better person.

A narcissist can appear to be kind. He may be doing the act of kindness for attention, as he lacks true empathy and the emotions to maintain true, lasting relationships. Beyond self-centered, the narcissist is envious of others, always comparing and competing, carrying in his mind a sense of entitlement, unable to be convinced why he cannot have the very best. If you realize that you have met a narcissist and cannot separate yourself from the person, set mental, emotional, and physical boundaries immediately to protect yourself.